I’m A Mom And Sometimes I Feel Lonely

Being a mother is an incredible privilege. But even if you love your baby with all your heart, at times you can not make up for feeling lonely.

Raising a child is a 24-hour job for the first few years, and it is not always easy, hence doubt and loneliness…

If you know this feeling all too well, you should know that you are not alone. You should also not think that these thoughts or particular discomfort are direct symptoms of depression.

In fact, there is a completely normal, psychological process associated with the interdependence we establish in our babies.

Every woman educates herself in a way. There are those who live in loneliness because they choose it. Others face many alone-hours while their partners go to work.

Having a family that is far away and friends who have their own responsibilities means that the mother role can often be lonely and you can feel isolated.

We invite you to explore this familiar topic: the feeling of being lonely as a parent.

When I feel lonely with my baby

A few months ago, the maternity and maternity magazine “Mamma Mia” published an interesting article telling the personal story of an Australian mother who had commented on social media about how she left her 10-month-old daughter alone for seven minutes for to shop.

The controversy was intense for several days. But in addition to the risk of leaving our children alone for 5 minutes alone, it created another problem, a more subtle and delicate one: loneliness and the absolute dependence that mothers experience with their children in the early years.

The dual complexity of motherhood

In our society, it is very common to see motherhood as the complete and most satisfying time for a woman, which no doubt applies to most women.

However, we would like to refine the data a little more: it is satisfactory, but not always easy. Happiness does not remain at the same level 24/7, all days of the year.

• Motherhood forces us first and foremost to change roles. It causes a woman to stop being her own priority, and to shift all her energy and emotions over to the newborn.
• Sometimes everything creates the emotional and psychological aversion, doubt and fear. “Is everything well? Will he be comfortable? Is there something wrong?”
• This addiction is established many times during the day in an uninterrupted manner, over several months or even years.

• Their job ambitions have been put on hold and their relationship with their friends is no longer the same. Sometimes the intimacy we have with our partners changes a bit. We are now fathers and mothers and our children are our priority.
• The oppressed mother is not a depressed or a desperate mother. These are normal situations that occur, especially with the first child.

For this reason and to better cope with this feeling and to avoid stress and anxiety in the first place, it is necessary to make small changes and confront the situation.

Distribute responsibilities and get a support network

There is one aspect that we need to be aware of: being a mother does not mean that we have to build walls around ourselves, in order to continue to nurture the invisible umbilical cord of our children, in loneliness.

We must understand that if we do not feel well, we will project the same discomfort to the child.

To give our child a childhood full of qualities, joy and satisfaction, the responsibility must be shared. The father also fulfills a fundamental role, and even our family members offer invaluable help in daily life.

Pay attention to these simple tips that are worth considering.

Take a walk, do not spend all day at home

Our schedule is established during the first few months based on breastfeeding, napping and the baby’s regular needs.

Although we know that following proper routines and habits is a priority in parenting, it is necessary and healthy for us to go outside, go for a walk and get some sun. Social contact is also crucial for our well-being and for the child to receive the new stimuli.

Get a support network

Whether you are a single parent or have a partner, you need a daily support network. Sharing responsibilities is always appropriate and necessary.

Counting on friends who are also mothers is a wonderful way to feel supported, to avoid doubt, to release tensions, and to ward off a certain fear that may arise.

Play activities with your baby

As your baby grows, you can do fun activities with him that allow him to mature in an ideal way while strengthening your relationship with him.

• There are centers where you e.g. can practice yoga with your baby.
• Swimming is also a fun activity to share experiences with other parents and improve your child’s motor skills.

As you can see, enjoying motherhood, contact with friends, support from other couples and an environment that makes everyday life easier for our children.

It is a valuable adventure, and although the feeling of being lonely is normal once in a while, there are many opportunities to avoid this feeling.